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Busy Doing Nothing

Busy Doing nothing top image with laptop, cup of tea, pretty flowers, books, phone, social media

I’d like to think I’m not the only one who, at the beginning of their day, has grand plans of all the creative + productive things I’m going to get done; only to become so overwhelmed, crammed with great (at least in my opinion) ideas that I end up thinking “I’ll just make one more cuppa, check ALL social media platforms just one more time + then I’ll crack on”. On an average day I may have repeated this action 4-5 times,  then it’s 3pm, time to make the transition from mum of baby on maternity leave to dinner lady/taxi/referee/washer-woman, at which point, needless to say, NOTHING-NADA is achieved!

In my time I’ve read many a book, blog, mag article on how to manage my time more effectively – some offering, for want of better words, bloody obvious or just plain ridiculous advice.  I’m not professing (in light of the above) to be an enlightened individual who has each minute of the day planned (regardless of the amount of stationary/day planners I’ve accumulated), never once stopping to just do, well, nothing other than go through my amazon wish list with another cup of tea – AGAIN! But I’m pretty sure I’ve come up with a few tips which, hopefully, might make another creative mum’s head a little clearer – if I save just one of you, I’ve done a good job!

  • You are not Superwoman! Don’t get me wrong, you’re pretty darn great, but even you can’t get everything done within 24 hours. Give yourself 1 main thing to achieve in your day (for example, mine, today is write this blog), with 2-3 satellite to-dos i.e. the ironing, a bit of social media planning + responding to a couple of emails.
  • Others expectations really don’t matter! This was one I found really difficult to let go of. I was convinced that when my partner returned home from work, + I’d been at home with the baby etc all day with nothing to really show for it, I’d somehow be caught out! I worried that if the house wasn’t looking fab, the washing all done, the ironing in the wardrobe, kids all fed + clean (I wish!), a blog post live, social media ticking away in the background + all emails replied to – that I’d somehow failed. The truth is, if you’ve got through the day with all kids intact, in the right house, fed + happy (clean is maybe a step too far), you’ve achieved a miracle!
  • Take a day off. No, I don’t mean abandon all motherly duties + skip off the spa. At least once a week, take yourself + little one to do something fun, it will undoubtedly restore your faith in good times +, an interesting side effect I’ve found to be true, it will make your following day a lot more productive – probably like those endorphin thingies you apparently get from exercise!
  • Always have a notepad + pen. If you’re anything like me it’s hard to shut your brain up, quite often brimming with too many ideas that they stop all productivity in its tracks. I’ve found the best thing to do is jot down the idea, get it out of my head + then carry on with what I’m supposed to be doing – only going back to the notepad when you genuinely have time.
  • Get a house fairy! If finances permit, get a cleaner! We started having the lovely “lady that does” when I was 7 months pregnant + a bit too round to be cleaning up after 4 boys, a man + two dogs. Now baby’s two months + I’m not so round, I’m not prepared to let her go.  Every week it gives me back 5-6 hours I can spend with the kids, I would otherwise be sticking them in front of the TV whilst I scrubbed the third toilet + cursed the dusty Venetian blinds.

So there you have it, it’s not rocket science + you’ve probably heard of these hundreds of times, but this condensed version of tips is what I’ve found to be most useful!  It’s just time to worry when every one of the aforementioned cups of tea turns into a double G&T!

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Oh, one last thing to remember mama – you’re doing a great job!!


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  1. May, 2015 / 2:05 pm

    Hi Jess

    Just to say I love following your blog and reading your inspiring articles. I found you completely by coincidence and it turns out we went to the same school – St Mary’s Hall, although I was 2 years above you (I think). Congrats on the blog and on the new addition to your family. I too have a blog called http://www.healthylifestyle.recipes but I’m not a mother (although I am a step-mum) so mine is a food n fitness blog rather than a “mum blog”. Keep up the good work – changing the world one blog article at a time lol

    • onlygirlblog@btinternet.com
      May, 2015 / 4:04 pm

      Hi Lou, omg, yes I remember you! How’s life? Thanks so much for your lovely words. Great blog too, a healthier lifestyle is on my to-do list! Your fish pie recipe looks fab!! Have a super weekend x

      • May, 2015 / 1:30 pm

        Haha! Thank you! Life is good – about to emigrate to Portugal with my work so very, very busy! Take care xx

        • onlygirlblog@btinternet.com
          May, 2015 / 6:57 pm

          Ooo, how V exciting!! Best of luck with the big move and lovely to hear from you x

  2. May, 2015 / 4:02 pm

    Hi Jess
    Great post. I am an avid reader of books about productivity – I’ve just finished ‘Eat that Frog’ about how to stop procrastinating. But I agree with you, I think the most important thing is to stop having such high expectations. We just can’t get it ALL done, and as long as the family is safe, fed and happy, I reckon we’ve done a brilliant job.

  3. christinA
    May, 2015 / 5:29 am

    Lovely blog. Feeding 5 month and exploring. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Almost daily I feel faustrated that I don’t have the time to accomplish the everything I would like on my blog. I started a new social media/working from home job this week and it has made even harder. It is really is one small step a time but will get there in the end. Looking forward to reading more.